Programme Update

Roles of a Woman in a Successful Marriage 💖

Welcome back to the Love Zone, your sanctuary for matters of the heart. I’m thrilled to bring you this edition, a sequel to the insightful conversation with our special guest, Mrs. Favour Duruji-Moses. Today, we dive deep into the heart of successful marriages and unravel the pivotal roles of a woman.

🌺 Meet Our Special Guest: Mrs. Favour Duruji-Moses
Joining me in the Love Zone is the remarkable Mrs. Favour Duruji-Moses. A mother, relationship coach, author of “Beyond the Hurt,” founder of Hosanna Women Fellowship, and a teacher of the word – Mrs. Moses wears many hats, each contributing to her wealth of wisdom on the subject of love.

🌟 The Role of a Woman: More Than “Oriaku”
Mrs. Favour passionately reminds us that a woman’s role extends beyond being a consumer of wealth. In Igbo (people from the southeastern part of Nigeria, who speak Igbo), some married women are called “Oriaku,” translating to “I have come to eat wealth.” However, Mrs. Favour emphasizes that a woman’s purpose in a man’s life goes far beyond consumption; it is about multiplication.

🔑 Key Insights for a Successful Marriage
Be a Good Thing: Mrs. Moses echoes the wisdom of Proverbs, emphasizing that a woman must first become a good thing.

Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, And obtaineth favour of the LORD.

Proverbs 18:22 KJV

Sharing a personal anecdote, she highlights how she brought joy, peace, and enlargement to her husband’s life, proving that age is just a number when God is at the center.

Enjoy Your Single-hood: Before stepping into the role of a wife, use your single-hood wisely. Find your vision, glorify God, acquire skills, and work on your character. A successful marriage starts with a well-prepared and fulfilled individual.

The Power of Prayer: The most crucial role of a woman is being a praying wife. Early prayers for your future spouse lay the foundation for a harmonious and fulfilling marriage. Remember, a praying husband is equally important.

Respect Above All: Mrs. Duruji challenges the notion that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. Instead, she asserts that respect is the primary need of a man. Even if you earn more than your husband, acknowledge his role as the head of the family.

Prioritize Your Husband: Amidst the demands of children and daily life, prioritize your husband. Mrs. Duruji admits the struggle but emphasizes that your husband remains your number one assignment.

Teach Children Respect: In teaching your children about the importance of their father, ensure they respect and honour him. Avoid venting your displeasure about your husband to the children, as it can inadvertently undermine the family structure.

”I have someone close to me who always sends money to his mother and anytime I keep asking him if he had sent anything to his father, he would say No, because of what the father did when they were growing up as he wasn’t there for them, but I asked him that how would you feel if you have your children and your children does the same to you? Despite what we’ve been through in life, live through the scriptures, take care of your parents, and honor them. You aren’t God to judge them. Even if your parents are no more, some people have played the role of motherhood or fatherhood in your life, ensure you take care of them, because there will be a time when you too will need somebody to take care of you. The worst thing that can happen to anybody is to be lonely when you are old. I’m not saying that fathers shouldn’t contribute to the home, if you are the head, then be the head.”

Financial Leadership: If you are more financially capable, establish your man without assuming a leadership position. It’s about partnership, not a hierarchy.

Intimacy Matters: Finally, Mrs. Duruji speaks candidly about the importance of intimacy in a marriage. Financial provision is vital, but neglecting the emotional and physical needs of your spouse creates a void that money can’t fill.

Let’s Continue the Conversation
Share your thoughts, experiences, and questions with us. Join the community as we unravel the intricacies of love, marriage, and everything in between.

With love and anticipation,

Mrs. SONATE EGEONU